Friday, April 10, 2009

What Would Miss Manners Say?

In English pubs, ale is ordered by pints and quarts... So in old England, when customers got unruly, the bartender would yell at them 'Mind your pints and quarts, and settle down. It's where we get the phrase 'mind your P's and Q's

Did you thank the person who held that door for you today? She/he didn’t have to do that, but they have good manners. Do your good manners show in response. Minding your P’s & Q’s is important to getting along in our fast paced society.
I watched cars this morning jamming themselves into traffic. Their drivers must assume that their journey is more important than the other guy’s. Somehow this is justification for them to create a hazard and put lots of people in jeopardy. I’m sorry to tell them this, but it is just plain RUDE to act like that. Your mission is no more important than the other guy so back off and be calm. I’ve long contended that driver’s licenses should not be issued to “A” personalities.
How long did it take you to send a thank you for a gift, grand gesture, or pleasant encounter? The internet has made us lazy and caused us to get away from hand written notes of appreciation. Other methods will do the job, but nothing is nicer, and more caring than a snail mail card (do you remember those?) Our mothers forced us to reply within 48 hours, but that was another generation. There is no good reason for not returning to those practices-they are very civilized.
We say we live in a supposedly civilized society, but I see too much pushing, shoving, ignoring, disrespecting, and plain rudeness to consider our society truly civilized. It is incumbent on each of use to do our share to bring back life’s little niceties. Sure they take a little more time, but the pleasure the give, and return are worth the effort. Try a smile and a thank you on a stranger and see what I mean.